Sunday, May 9, 2010
Happy Mother's day to everyone. Being a mom myself, I can tell you mom's have gotten a bad rap from the science of psychology and psychiatry over the decades. Everything seemed to be laid at the feet of moms for any and all issues their kids may have or developed as they grew. Current research now tells us that while the relationship between a mom and child is very important, so is the relationship between a dad and the child. Some say equally so. Also, we were led to believe that after the first 5 years of life, the brain is pretty much shaped and we may have lost vital opportunities to learn and shape the way the child turns out. Now we know while the first few years of life are vital, the brain continues to develop well into early adulthood and anything the child experienced in early childhood can be corrected later on. It just takes longer to learn. Moms are the people who take care of the sick kids, bandage the skinned knees, sit up with you when you have nightmares and make sure you are wearing clean underwear in case you are hit by a car. I never really understood that one until I had my own kids. It actually had nothing to do with hygiene for the child . It was all about how embarrassing for me to have my kid wearing ripped or otherwise gross underwear! I am sure you can all remember some momisms from your own childhood."Eat everything on your plate... kids in China are starving". Who are those kids and how do you know they are starving? One of my kids actually said,"Well here, you can send them this!" The point of all of this is, Moms are special and today is our day to be remembered. So take some time and think of all the moms in your life. Especially the single moms who are trying to be everything to their kids. And remember, stop blaming us. We did the best we could and you took over at some point! Happy Mothers Day!